The awful truth is: being a responsible adult dictates a good majority of your life.
You must work.
And it becomes routine. And it becomes monotonous.
(For the majority of us. I realize some people lead different lives.)
Some people fight hard against the responsible adult lifestyle. I applaud you.
I, myself, hang on to my tiny shred of idealism and hope that tomorrow, next month, next year… it will get easier. Being an adult will get easier. I don’t think, though, that it does, unless you decide to make it easier.
If you make the decision to live responsibly you must find a way to balance what is the monotony of adult life with your real life.
That’s not to say my life is boring. It’s really not.
My life is wonderful. I am thankful every single day for all the amazing people and things and ideas and conversations that make up my life. Life is short. I know this to be earth-shatteringly true. I never, ever forget to find the great things in my day and think of those great things and understand that I am incredibly lucky.
However, someone once said to me: Isn’t it strange you work your whole life making money for someone else?
I mean… isn’t it? Isn’t it strange that you must counteract the monotony only to be able to go to work and be happy?
So, what’s the point?
I’ve found you must focus on those great things I mentioned. You must make a conscious decision to pour your energy into loving someone, loving yourself, and loving your life.
I honestly think, at the end of the day, and at the end of your life, what truly matters is the impact we have on each other.
That’s how (and why) you get through the day-to-day monotony. It’s the late nights and the playdates with the nephews and the dates with the boyfriend and the dinners at mom’s.
We had a visitor a few weekends ago.
He’s a best friend of the boyfriend and although my contact with him is only every-now-and-then, he is an interesting and old soul. Anytime we hang out with him I always have new ideas and concepts and life thoughts to reflect upon.
We ended up, as our generation often does, watching YouTube videos and laughing and relaxing.
A suggestion was made to watch This is Water, a video depicting a commencement speech by the late David Foster Wallace.
You should watch the video. If you have any idea what I’ve been talking about, you should watch the video. As I watched it, I thought to myself: This is life. This is what it’s like.
It’s 9 minutes long so most of you will decide that’s too many minutes of your day to spend watching a video.
You should watch the video.